Work with Me
One of the hardest parts of the adoption journey is wrestling with rejection, silence, or the feeling that no one understands. I’ve been there.
Now, I offer faith-rooted, trauma-informed coaching to help adult adoptees heal from shame, reclaim their identity, and live with peace and purpose.
Welcome Home, Adoptee
I AM HERE TO HELP.
Let myou what it's like to be free.
Let me tell you what it's like to be free.
The shock of being told that I wasn’t who I thought I was made me feel like I lost my identity. Desperate to resolve the inward questioning of my worth, I searched for my biological family, hoping that reconnection would bring me peace.
You’ll Fit Right In.
Although we reunited, I still felt fragmented. The puzzle of my identity did not fall into place.
Instead, I experienced true freedom and wholeness when I learned to see myself as Christ sees me. After linking arms with other adoptees on this journey, these truths resonated with me:
I am known by Him and He calls me His own (Isaiah 43:1).
I am empowered when I share my story (Proverbs 27:17).
Sharing my testimony gives other adoptees the freedom to share their own (Romans 1: 11-12).
After discovering that I was adopted, my identity felt like a huge question mark. Over time, people-pleasing behaviors that began as an innocent quest for affirmation spiraled into self-sabotaging habits that constantly derailed me from God’s will for my life.
Finding truth in God's word helped me realize that I could shift from pursuing the acceptance of others by believing that God already accepts me.
I help adult adoptees remove shame from their stories.
Welcome, Friend!
I'M IRIS.
I believe you can experience freedom too!
Join a guided small group experience created for adult adoptees seeking faith, identity, and connection.
Each month, we gather in a safe, spirit-led space to explore God’s Word, process our stories, and walk together toward peace and purpose.
Hope and Healing in Community
Get personalized, faith-rooted, trauma-informed support from an adoptee who understands. Work 1:1 with Iris to untangle shame, rebuild identity, and live with truth and freedom.
ADOPTEE COACHING
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–Patrice m. adult adoptee
“She and her ministry have helped me to develop spiritually by helping me see the woman that God has truly created me to be. Iris is a bright light in this world and she consistently challenges us to think beyond what we see and to press into God's reality for us. She is a fierce advocate for those who are hurting and I can say that she is truly a Sister in Christ and in helping serve in the adoptee community. ”
"A fierce advocate"
EPISODES
Amanda McKinstry, "Black Girl White Family" shares the perspective of a transracial adoptee and her work as an educator.
EPISODE 24-Finding freedom by telling my story
Welcome to the first episode of My Adoption Story with my special guest, Patrice Martin. Patrice, an adult adoptee, was featured on TLC's Long Lost Family and joins us to share an amazing testimony of God's grace and forgiveness.
epISODE 23: PARTICIPATING IN GRACE WITH PATRICE MARTIN
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standing strong in the face of rejection
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